By Guest Author Gloria Martinez
Are you sick of your current job? Do you want 2017 to be the year that you finally start doing something you love? Or are you torn - unsure whether to stay in your current industry, but unable to drop everything and leave?
Whatever your situation, these warning signs will help you decide whether or not a career change is in your future.
1. Your Job Isn’t Fulfilling
Human nature dictates that we should feel fulfilled by our careers. Maybe, at first, your career was exciting, new, and different. But now you just want to go home, even if you’ve only been at the office for twenty-five minutes. You don’t feel that sense of excitement anymore. You aren’t interested in telling anyone about your day. When you look in the mirror, you wonder if you’re making the right choice with your life. These are all reasons to walk away.
Not sure how to find fulfillment? Here are seven essentials for a fulfilling career, as told by Forbes.
2. You’re Unhappy
Not only do you feel unfulfilled by the work you do - but you don’t feel happy either. Being at work makes you miserable and fills you with self doubt. You start to question everything, including your choice of a stable career. Your unhappiness begins to drift out of the office and into your personal life. This is a serious sign that you need to change careers altogether.
3. You Don’t Care
Maybe you feel that you ought to be fulfilled and happy with your career, but you just don’t care about anything anymore. Meeting deadlines and submitting quality work is no longer a priority. Apathy is a significant warning sign of underlying symptoms. If your work feels repetitive, boring, and pointless, you aren’t finding a purpose in your career. This is absolutely a strong enough reason to leave. More often than not, allowing apathy to continue will only encourage your superiors to let you go themselves.
4. You Feel Jealous
When your friends talk about their careers, you feel jealous and angry - but you can’t explain why. This usually comes back to our problem with fulfillment. Your friends are genuinely happy and interested in their jobs. You, however, would rather go on vacation and never come back. You aren’t lazy. You just need a change of pace. Learn more about handling apathy, jealousy, and exhaustion from The Muse.
5. You’re Constantly Exhausted
When we dislike our jobs, we often feel exhausted for no apparent reason. This is because completing work that we inherently dislike takes more energy than completing work that we enjoy. This is especially true if you spend half of your work day thinking about being anywhere else. A constant state of exhaustion is a sign that you need to make a change in your lifestyle - particularly in the employment department.
6. The Money Isn’t Enough
When you first started working, your paycheck seemed completely worth the effort put into it. Now, you’d rather lose a paycheck than go to work. It’s become a required routine - not something interesting that pays the bills. When you’ve reached this point, there is no going back. You will likely never enjoy your career the same way (unless you receive a significant promotion).
Still not sure what to do? This checklist from Monster can help you make an informed decision based on your personal red flags.
Deciding to change careers isn’t easy. However, if you are experiencing one or more of these warning signs, you should give the idea serious thought. It might be a long and difficult process, but you will be far happier in the end.
Gloria runs WomenLed.org, which aims to honor the achievements of women in the workplace and aspires to help increase the number of women-led corporations, organizations, and small businesses by educating others about “women led” achievements.
By Amanda Martinez
The gentlemen around me burst into a guffaw of laughter. We are all standing in a circle facing one man with a shiny name tag plastered across the left breast pocket of his navy suit coat. It reads, “Johnathan Smith” followed by “Savior Health Hospital” underneath. A few of the men, a mix of classmates and strangers, shuffle their feet and nervously run their hands over their slacks, always smiling convincingly to the man in the Navy suit.
We are at a networking event. When I first approached Johnathan, a lone figure at the corner of the room, I felt exhilarated and confident with only a healthy dash of nervousness. I had been looking at Savior Health Hospital for a while now, and here was my chance to make a strong first impression to show them who I am, what I’ve got, and maybe get my foot in the door for a future career.
But that was ten minutes ago. And now, as I am being slowly pushed out of the circle that has formed around us, I feel small and negligible. I try to speak up and push my way back in, but the conversation has turned to last night’s Tiger’s game and I know nothing about baseball. At 5’3”, I suddenly feel as if the people in the circle – once fellow colleagues – are towering over me like vultures. I look around the circle and cannot find my reflection. I am short, brown, and a woman. I do not belong here.
What am I doing here? I ask myself. I turn away and slip silently from the group. I know I will not be missed.
As a Master of Public Health student in Health Management and Policy at the University of Michigan, I have found a second home with my School of Public Health (SPH) family. My professors, peers, and school administration have welcomed me into the diverse culture that thrives at SPH. When I am at school, I feel like my unique background makes me an asset to the classroom. I can bring in the woman’s perspective, the minority and Hispanic perspective, and my own personal perspective that has been shaped through my individual experiences. However, as soon as I step into the real world that lies beyond the walls of SPH, the harsh realities of double-standards, sexism, and racism slam into me like a train careening off its tracks. A train that, if anything, has been fueled by the rhetoric and intolerance spread by recent political events and elections.
There are serious inequalities that exist in almost every facet of professional life here in the United States. We are well into the twenty-first century, and yet I will still be paid less than my white, male counterpart because of the color of my skin, the existence of my breasts, and my petite stature. But I’m not here to whine. Yes, it sucks. It absolutely sucks. But I’m coming to realize that while it is important to acknowledge inequalities, it is even more important to fight harder against them.
I lived in this world before I came to Ann Arbor and my eyes were open. I’d experienced racism, sexism, and many other “isms,” but for some reason it never felt like it does now. Like a soaked, heavy blanket thrown over me and always weighing me down, suffocating me, making it harder to take one more step forward. Eighty-six percent of C-suite hospital executives are white while onIy seven percent are black and 3 percent are Hispanic or Latino. Honestly, this makes me angry. Because I know I need to work three times as hard as others to get to the same place. But you know what? I absolutely will. My grandparents came to this country in the 1960s and faced much more hate, intolerance, and obstacles than I ever will. And yet they worked four times as hard to be stronger, faster and, above all, kinder than the intolerance that faced them. Then my parents, pursuing careers in the bureaucracy of upper-level university administration, served as my first-hand mentors by working three times as hard to push past boundaries and become accomplished and much-loved departmental directors and associate deans – all the while raising my brothers and me to believe we could accomplish anything we desired through the same values instilled upon them by their parents: education, hard work, and kindness.
Since starting my graduate studies, I’ve become more aware of the disparities in minority and women representation in Public Health Administration. I am unaccustomed to being so acutely aware of my appearance and background. How I present myself suddenly becomes much more essential in everything I do and that is a difficult burden to constantly carry.
So here I am, shuffling toward the big black doors that mark the exit from this networking conference and an escape from my personal shame and perceived alienation. As I reach the foot of the exit, I pause and tightly shut my eyes. You deserve to be here, I tell myself. Life isn’t fair, but don’t you dare lie down and take it. You DESERVE to succeed. In a moment of weakness, I was only a few steps away from losing an opportunity because I chose to feel like less, to let them win – and it is a choice, one of many small choices made throughout each day to pursue greatness and chase equality.
I stay. I stay for my grandparents, for my parents, for my future children. I stay for everyone that will one day be faced with the choice of walking out the doors or not. With one deep breath, I swivel on my heel and stride back to the cluster of suits in the corner. The glass ceiling exists, but we are pressing against it and gaining force. We will fight for what we deserve: equality, justice, and love. Yes, I will willingly and happily work twice as hard as my counterparts. Then, one day, the glass ceiling will shatter. Perhaps it will be my children or my children’s children that will live in a world in which they will only need to work as hard their peers of every size, color and gender to accomplish their dreams. Until then, however, I maneuver my way through the crowd to the man in the Navy suit, stretching out my hand confidently.
By Rachel Bittman
It happens. One semester down, one more to go until summer (and internships, jobs, and whatever comes next). Classes seem tedious, homework endless, and all you want to do is don your sweatpants and curl up in bed with a bag of chips and the newest season of your favorite show on Netflix.
Problem? The semester is nowhere near over! There are still classes to attend, activities to get involved in, maybe an internship or a job to seek out and obtain. You can’t afford to sleep the semester away.
So then what do you do? Here are several tips to keep yourself motivated and avoid falling into the ‘Spring Semester Slump’.
1. Set small goals
What is it you want to accomplish by the end of this term? Is it a certain grade in that class you’ve been struggling in? An internship or a job with a specific organization or company, or in a specific location? A student organization you’ve thought about joining all year but never got around to?
Once you have the big goal, break it down. How can you achieve that grade, how can you get that job, what do you need to do to join that organization? Could it be attending office hours, sending out emails or cold calling companies? A large goal can seem daunting, but by breaking it down to small actions, you can make that ending seem much more reachable and attainable.
Organization might seem impossible at times. You’ve got so much going on in your life, nobody ever said grad school would be easy. There’s classes, homework, extracurricular activities, and let’s not forget about keeping an active social life outside of school. Organizing your calendar can help you keep track of assignments and classes, so that you can avoid the last minute panic of having a ten-page paper due with only a day to write it. Whether that calendar is electronic on your phone, tablet, computer, or all three, or if you keep a paper copy, just remember to update it when you first hear about that final presentation, test, or project! Set small intermediate objectives: if you have a project due at the end of the semester, what steps do you want to have done by midterms? Break down assignments to smaller tasks to avoid becoming overwhelmed, and remember to keep track of what you need to complete and the dates they should be done!
Sometimes it can be hard to remember that there is a light at the end of this tunnel. Whatever year you’re in right now, whether you came straight from undergrad to grad school or took a few years off in between, don’t forget why you’re here. Those reasons are different for everyone – it could be a need to obtain a higher degree to advance in your chosen career path, or a change in careers, a step on the path to another degree, or any one of a thousand reasons. It may be more than one reason. Whatever challenges you face in school or in life, remember why you chose to pursue this degree. That inspiration can carry you through the semester, and remind you of that bigger picture: even though it might seem tedious and trying at times, you’re here for a reason.
4. Life exists outside of school
I know, it might not always seem it at times, right? When you’re taking so many classes, and there’s so much homework and reading to get done, tests to study for, projects and assignments with looming deadlines. But it’s important to put down the textbook at times, and just go out and have fun (anyone who knows me will know that I’m writing this in more of a ‘do as I say, not as I do’ kind of fashion, but it’s still a good point to make).
So spend a Saturday night with friends at a bar or a club. Go hiking, or skiing, or whatever other activity you might enjoy. Find a cooking class, or a spinning class; maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to try but never got around to it. You’re here for a degree, but what’s more important is that you enjoy getting it. If you spend all your time in the library or buried in your homework, it’s very easy to lose the passion that got you here in the first place.
5. You’re a part of something
Here in SPH, we’re completing different degrees, we’ve got different program requirements, different reasons for why we chose to come to this school above all others, but I believe that the underlying motive for being here, what draws us to public health, all boils down to a desire to help people. Maybe we just want to make a difference. So reach out, make new friends, and don’t be afraid to try something new. We might not all have the same interests, but we’re far more connected than we are different.
6. Believe in yourself
I learned about the term ‘imposter syndrome’ in one of my first classes, in my first semester at graduate school. I didn’t even know there was a specific word for it. The term is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud.
Basically, even though you were accepted to an amazing school, and even if you’re doing well in your classes, you still feel like you don’t really belong here. I felt it, I still feel it. And I know I’m not the only one. And neither are you. Even if you have moments of doubt, remember that you’re here. The University of Michigan wants you here. They looked at thousands of applicants, and they chose you. Just keep believing in yourself, no matter how hard it might get at times. Use all of these tips: set small goals, organize efficiently, remember your inspiration for pursuing a career in public health, don’t forget to relax and have fun at times, and connect with your cohort, your fellow SPH-ers.
And most importantly, if you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. It can seem like a never-ending journey at times, constantly studying and reading, so much to do and not enough time to do it. If you feel overwhelmed, you’re not the only one. There is a whole network of classmates, faculty, and staff, just waiting, ready to help you if you ever need it.
By Serena Bidwell
“Who inspires you?”
“Who is your biggest role model?”
I can recall being asked these questions throughout elementary school, as they were often prompts to short writing assignments and generated conversations in young classrooms. Similar to many other students, I would frequently respond that my biggest role model was my mother, but, as I’ve gotten older, this has become truer and increasingly more apparent.
My mom is a surgeon scientist, an accomplished, determined, innovative woman in the medical field who devotes her time to both novel stem cell cancer research and relationships with patients through her clinical duties. Her job title alone is reason to admire her, but, recently, I’ve started to notice all the challenges she has had to face to get to where she is today, and these feats make me even prouder to call her my mom and inspiration.
When she attended medical school at Stanford, she was one of the few women in her program. Furthermore, men have held the majority of the administrative positions within her work institutions. She has had to negotiate her salary to match her male counterparts and has had difficult conversations regarding the expectations of female versus male faculty members. She has been called names in response to her assertive attitudes, and she has been rejected from positions because she “didn’t fit the image.” Yet, she found a way to persevere, to fight for her own workplace dreams, to create change.
My mother has navigated through obstacles in a once male-dominated field and now runs her own successful research lab at the renowned Cleveland Clinic. However, I can’t help but wonder if our generation will have to battle the same struggles she faced.
How much has our society truly changed? I would love to believe that we now live in a world where one’s gender or identity does not limit his or her success. But if women lead with the same passion, fortitude, and vigor as their male coworkers, will they be rewarded in the same way? Or will they be ridiculed for not demonstrating
By: Bharathi Ramachandran,
co-Chair Professional Development and Networking Committee
This summer I have been listening to a Forbes podcast, The Limit Does Not Exist: A Podcast for Human Venn Diagrams. It is hosted by Christina Wallace and Cate Scott who interview a professional (usually women) working in unique careers integrating both their STEM backgrounds and creative interests. I have enjoyed some great talks from the director of photography from Pixar and from the CEO of Penrose Studios, a virtual reality startup. This podcast is part of a series that Forbes announced earlier this year, focusing on millennial women interested in the world of start-ups and entrepreneurship. It is a unique venture hosted mostly for and by millennial women featuring leadership and entrepreneurial advice and stories.
I was most excited about this venture because it is time we started to promote more media featuring women in power and leadership and less as wives of popular men. As progressive as we have become by nominating our first female presidential candidate, there is still a misrepresentation of women in many other fields including tech and business. There was a recent article published on Newsweek titled “The Founding Fathers of the Silicon Valley” featuring well known names, such as Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Steve Jobs and other men. Yet, the women who played prominent roles in making that valley are never heard of.
Today, media plays a huge role in shaping perceptions, often negating outdated views on what qualities make a successful leader. But there is an opportunity to play a more positive role by helping break stereotypes, by portraying more women in leadership and by emphasizing the more collaborative skills that are increasingly important in today’s leaders. The ability to coordinate, collaborate and negotiate between various investors to come to useful agreement requires empathy, and the ability to listen to and put oneself in another person’s position. These attributes are key to real strategic thinking and are most often associated with women. It is time that media and entertainment represent this collective reality of who is leading and what leadership really means.
As the world realizes this shift in global balance and more women are coming forward for powerful leadership roles, it is time we reframe, rebrand, and sell an accurate picture of leaders and leadership to our young boys and girls.
By Dragana Spasevska
This presidential race has arguably been one of the most contentious with both Trump and Hillary Clinton getting high unfavorability ratings. For those who don’t like Hillary, many will say that she is playing the “Woman Card,” that her very identity as a woman would get her into the White House due to the symbolic meaning of having the first female president. The same argument occurred during the previous presidential race where Obama was accused of playing the “Black Card.” When I think of Hillary being a woman, I don’t usually view this as a positive characteristic in terms of her winning the presidency. In fact, I would say that running for office as a woman in a traditionally male role is incredibly challenging, and there’s evidence to show that in published media and public perceptions.
For example, in the Becker’s Hospital Review a couple months ago, I read about research from the Yale School of Management published in the Harvard Business Review, stating that women in generally male-dominated occupations face much higher criticism after making mistakes than men. Researchers presented study participants with a fictitious news story about a big city preparing for a major protest rally. In the scenario when the chief police officer was female and didn’t send enough police forces—which resulted in 25 people who were seriously injured—the participants gave a 10 percent lower rating than when the same chief police officer in the same scenario was a male. Researchers repeated similar studies for other traditionally male jobs like CEO and state Supreme Court chief justice. The only scenario in which male leaders were criticized more harshly for mistakes than women was when a man filled a role typically held by women — a male president of a women's college.
Ultimately, the researchers concluded that people find it easier to forgive a poor decision when the leader who makes it is in a gender-appropriate role. Unfortunately, men have much bigger territory in this regard than women. Whether in politics, finance, law, sports or the military, men dominate. For Hillary Clinton who has had her fair share of wins and losses holding office, it’s no surprise that her mistakes like the unsecured e-mail servers and Benghazi incidents have been scrutinized and judged so severely even amidst someone like Trump who clearly has had little political experience. Without diving deeply into whether Hillary really made egregious mistakes during her experience in politics, the fact that some will still judge her more harshly against an opponent who has neither held public office nor seems to have any humane thought-out plans for the United States, shows that gender biases may be proliferating our political processes as well. Next time we judge a female leader, we must ask ourselves, would I be saying the same thing if this was a male leader?
By Grace Kuan
Recently, I have been part of discussions on how programs and organizations with a focus on women can be more inclusive of our male counterparts. The idea was tossed out that one could just get rid of women in the group mission and title and make it gender neutral. The term ‘women’ might disinterest men and women who might otherwise consider joining.
However: 1) The two goals of supporting men and women are not mutually exclusive. Each is its own issue that deserves its own space. 2) Having a gender neutral student organization will have less resources available in supporting women specifically. 3) Groups focused on women wouldn’t exist unless there was a great need for it. Unfortunately, gender gaps do exist, and support for women has always been and is still needed.
We already know this. We know that a gender gap exists. There is a significant body of research that supports this. Women get paid less. Women are less likely to be promoted to leadership positions in the workplace. Women do not have the same access to needed healthcare as men. Women are less likely to be in political offices. This is just to name a few, and does not even consider minorities and nuances within this group.
Rather than getting sidetracked with the statistics and the details of each issue, here are some great sources to check out that would do a better job than me in proving the burden of evidence and describing each issue. Check out this report that was just published four months ago by the American Association of University Women (AAUW), and here is a Global Gender Gap Report published by the World Economic Forum just last year.
So, why would the term ‘women’ disinterest and scare others from joining and supporting an organization focused on women? In other words, why wouldn’t you support women in their pursuit for success?
For men, it may be that the organization is something not relevant or valuable to their own careers and success. For women, it may be the unfortunate existence of competition and fear of threat another woman’s success and ambition can pose, as Alyson discussed in WiHL’s last blog post.
In spite of this, I want to challenge both men and women in rather being comfortable in their own positions of power and success and the mentality of every (wo)man for him/herself, to employ compassion.
It’s true that we live in a world that largely engages in ‘scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours,’ but to practice compassion is to sacrifice and give up resources and power in the name of justice and equality, without expecting something in return to your own advantage. (This is not to invalidate the existence of evidence that does attest to the benefits of supporting and having females in the workplace, however.)
Employing compassion in this context could look like aiding in efforts to closing that gender gap and helping peers of your own gender to be successful. For women in positions of great influence, power, and success, it looks like helping your female peers who are still struggling and still in the process of finding their own success. For men, it’s giving women fair and equal opportunity in their arenas of influence. For both genders, this means giving up some of the opportunities and power that have been afforded to you in some advancement of an area of your life. For men and women who are struggling to find success and who have been discouraged by the lack of support for their own advancement, I encourage you to choose to keep trying in the face of failure, and to choose kindness and compassion when none have been extended to you. There are always people in your circle in need of your kindness and compassion if you take the time to look and listen.
If you really care about seeing positive change in the world, as we all (hopefully) are at the School of Public Health, you can’t do it alone. Why not help in advancing and supporting your female peers so that they might join the fight alongside you in promoting positive change in the world?
By Alyson McAdams
“Among the largely unacknowledged truths of female life is that women’s primary, foundational, formative relationships are as likely to be with each other as they are with the men we’ve been told since childhood are supposed to complete us.” - Rebecca Traister, All the Single Ladies
I recently finished reading All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation by Rebecca Traister--and I cannot recommend it enough. It had all my brain gears turning FAST as she unpacked the history of feminism, the role and burden of the single woman throughout history, and where the current rise in single women in America is leading us--socially, economically, and politically.
The chapter “Dangerous as Lucifer Matches: The Friendships of Women” struck me. I feel so grateful for the many strong female friendships I have in my life, relationships that offer me infinite emotional support and make me a better person. The chapter made me think about WiHL as a space that we can form these deep, connecting relationships with other women, all as we challenge each other to reach our goals and act as a source of support.
Unfortunately, we are often fed a rhetoric of women competing with one another--for partners, jobs, leadership opportunities. This creates a culture in which we are threatened by other successful, ambitious women and close ourselves off to them before we can learn from each other.
“Historically, women have pushed each other into, and supported each other within, intellectual and public realms to which men rarely extended invitations, let alone any promise of equality.” - Rebecca Traister, All the Single Ladies
Meet “Shine Theory”: Shine Theory is the creation of Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow (both powerful shining women in their own right and co-hosts of the podcast “Call Your Girlfriend” (highest recommendation, part 2)). Their theory says, if you see a woman who is cool, confident, successful, and your initial reaction is intimidation? Befriend her. Surround yourself with these ambitious women because you aim to be one. Because you can learn from them. Because you can teach them--because they may have been intimidated by you.
I hope that WiHL can serve as a place where we can connect, inspire, and push each other to shine our brightest. To bring together some fiercely ambitious people and feel the energy and potential, not the competition.
Find more on Shine Theory here and here, website for “Call Your Girlfriend” here, and All the Single Ladies here and HERE!
Please share thoughts, comments, and questions below!
By Ariel Herm, co-chair Professional Development and Networking Committee
I want to use this blog post as an opportunity to talk about an episode of Malcolm Gladwell’s new podcast, Revisionist History. The podcast is terrific and I highly recommend that those who have a commute to their internship this summer tune in weekly. Each week, Malcolm takes a look at something in history that has been overlooked or misunderstand. It’s fantastic.
The first episode of Revisionist History focused on moral licensing which I found to be an especially relevant topic given our political climate and ongoing racial tension in the U.S. It is titled: The Lady Vanishes.
Here is quick overview on moral licensing. It is an individual’s idea that a past good deed can free them of the need to do more good deeds, and instead justifies behavior that is immoral, unethical, and antithetical to the good deed. So for example, in 2008, a surprising number of individuals who voted for President Obama did so to prove that they weren’t racist. Survey data following the election showed that a significant group of individuals who voted for Obama had a tendency to express racist ideas (Merritt, Effron &Monin, 2010). So after voting for Obama, that was enough, they didn’t need to continue to display moral behavior, they had “done their bit.”
This concept really makes you think more about how we as individuals behave on an everyday basis. Do we jump to a cause and dive headfirst, and then when it becomes too difficult for us to continue, back off and say that’s enough? Do we behave this way towards people who are less like us on a regular basis? How often do we give a homeless person money or food, but give nothing to the next homeless person on the street we pass? Do we move between bouts of moral licensing throughout our day? Is this our way of making ethical decisions? I could go on and on, but where I really want to end up is on the subject of women in elected positions.
The question I am thinking about now as we approach election season is: if we elect a woman president, will we see moral licensing? Yes, I think we already see it now. Sexism and misogyny are coming through pretty strong in this election and unfortunately, I think that after this election, we will see more moral licensing in the years to come. After all, as Malcolm Gladwell points out in his podcast, an overwhelming number of countries that elected a woman as their leader, have done so once, and never again. The question is, what will cause the needle to move and move permanently?
Stacey Goldberg, a graduate of the School of Public Health and a successful businesswoman, recently came to the school to speak about her career and the winding road that brought her to her current work in nutrition. I was struck by her assertiveness and frankness as she spoke about her successes and failures with equal conviction. I felt I was getting a rare, truly honest insight into a woman’s experience navigating the professional sphere. She of course spoke inspiringly about following your dreams and persevering through difficult times, but I came away pondering two other thoughts she expressed during her presentation (paraphrasing):
“I had to give myself permission to want to make money, have paid vacation, and be home with my kids by 5.”
She said that in the health and nutrition worlds it can sometimes feel taboo to talk about the financial aspects of our work, there is pressure to make compensation a lower priority than perhaps we would like to. However, Stacey made the point that helping people and earning a living do not have to be mutually exclusive, they can coexist and even reinforce each other. The idea that the permission to desire a comfortable lifestyle comes from within is also an interesting, and in my opinion largely true, concept. Furthermore, it is my impression that this is especially the case for women in the health field. In fact, I see this tension in myself at times. If we can change our view of making money and not see it as the antithesis of social conscience, perhaps we could elevate ourselves to a new kind of success that is imbued with a deeper sense of knowing what we are worth.
“One of the hardest obstacles I’ve dealt with in getting here is when others have mistaken my assertiveness for aggressiveness.”
I believe this is a comment to which women of all personality types can relate. Outgoing or shy, women must deal with the fear of how they will be perceived when expressing strong opinions. To not only get over this fear but to get over it and continue to speak out seems a daunting task to me, but hearing Stacey’s conviction and that over time the positive perceptions have outweighed the negative ones is inspiring. By investing in the professional relationships in which we are positively perceived and even encouraged, and minimizing the relationships that make us doubt ourselves, we could create a career for ourselves in which our voices are heard, appreciated, and utilized.
It is important to hear women like Stacey speak honestly about both the light and dark sides of their professional experiences. We can learn from their mistakes, hear the wisdom behind their successes, and use them as role models as we enter the work force ready to dedicate our time and education to helping others, as well as to unapologetically creating a life for ourselves that is satisfying in whatever ways we need to feel fulfilled and well-rounded.
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